At the end of this workshop parents could be able to understand the importance of modelling correct behaviour.
Parents could be able to help their child to resolve conflict.
They could appreciate the importance of instilling manners in their child.
1. Children’s relations with peers as the key of their happiness
How children, playing with their peers, develop their language, how to negotiate, how to compromise and to trust. How parents can assist their children to have positive social skills and to be accepted by their peers.
2. The importance of manners
How parents can understand that manners are the means by which a child is judged by society and they demonstrate respect for others, a consciousness of other people’s feelings and help to build positive social relations.
How parents can teach and require their children the basic good manners (greeting people, saying “goodbye”, saying “please” and “thank you”, saying “sorry”, offering to help, clearing up, showing appreciation when someone has done something kind. Waiting their turn, listening to others).
3. Having friends to visit and visiting friends
How parents can manage play-dates at the house and help children to positively experience friends’ houses visits.
4. Helping children resolving social conflict
How parents can give to children tools to resolve their difficulties without causing damages to their self-worth or that of those around them.
How parents can make children sure they can talk to them about anything.
How parents can understand and help children in case of bullying events.
5. The importance of modelling behaviour
How parents can be positive role models for their children.
How parents can model good behaviour to their children and contribute to their feeling a sense of pride in their parents and building respect.
Emotional intelligence toolkit for parents – Practice in family
What kind of child I have?
Write a brief description of your children and about their capacity of coping socially. What have you done to help in this department or what would you like to do to help your children?
Praising good manners
Try to reinforce positive manners of your children not by disapproving bad actions but by praising them for their good actions. This validation will encourage children to continue to try, as all children enjoy feeling good about themselves.
Visiting a friend
Discuss with your children what they should do when visiting a friend. This should include the following:
Take time to talk with your children about conflicts at school or with their peers. Invite them to have a role-play, putting themselves in others’ shoes and considering their point of view.
Assess with your children different possible solutions for the conflict.
Modelling good behaviours
Treat your child with respect and demonstrate how you cope with difficult situations. It may mean that you have to talk to your children about correct behaviour and is, therefore, not confined to what you demonstrate, but also what you say.
Remember your child is biologically programmed to watch your facial expressions and body language to “read” what you really mean: this means that you have to be careful in how you communicate and realise that this is part of how you model appropriate behaviour.